The classic meaning of a cry for help is often seen as a dramatic or urgent signal that someone is in distress and needs immediate attention. It’s sometimes misunderstood as attention-seeking or manipulative, especially when it doesn’t follow expected patterns. In many settings, it gets treated as a problem to manage or contain, rather than a communication to understand.
From an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) perspective, a cry for help is a biological and relational expression of overwhelming disconnection, fear, or pain. It’s the body and nervous system reaching outward for co-regulation when internal resources are maxed out or inaccessible. It’s not about strategy or performance—it’s the human system doing what it’s built to do: signal for connection when survival feels threatened. What looks like chaos or exaggeration is often a last attempt to restore balance through being seen, felt, and safely joined.
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About Shay Seaborne, CPTSD
Shay Seaborne CPTSD teaches Relational Neuroscience for stress reduction, trauma recovery, and community building. Shay has studied the neurobiology of fear / trauma /PTSD since 2014 and Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) since 2019. They write, speak, teach, and make art to convey their experiences as well as their understanding of the neurobiology of fear, trauma theory, Interpersonal Neurobiology concepts, and principles of trauma recovery. A native of Northern Virginia, Shay settled in Delaware to sail KALMAR NYCKEL, the state’s tall ship. But once they finally had mental health insurance, their life rapidly changed. The standard treatment for PTSD nearly killed them. The psychiatric abuse began a cascade of negative medical encounters that repeatedly caused additional harm and the development of severe Medical PTSD.
Shay wishes everyone could recognize that "mental health problems" are symptoms of dysregulation, our mainstream culture is neuro-negative, and we can heal ourselves and each other through awareness, understanding, and safe connection.
