Meta’s Link Crackdown: The Silent Extortion of Small Creators and How to Fight Back

Posted on September 15, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

If you’ve noticed a sudden drop in your Facebook engagement or found yourself unable to post links to your website, you are not alone. I have experienced this, and across the digital landscape, social media strategists, small business owners, and independent publishers are furious. Meta is quietly rolling out a devastating update that places basic internet navigation and link distribution behind an expensive, multi-tiered paywall.

But why hasn’t there been a massive public uproar? Because Meta is rolling this out in staged, regional tests rather than hitting everyone at once. Here is everything you need to know about this silent crackdown—and how you can bypass it entirely.

Who is Affected?

This update is designed to target professional accounts and pages, leaving personal profiles in “Classic Mode” untouched for now. This is why your everyday friends might not understand the struggle, while small businesses and creators are feeling the squeeze:

  • Independent Musicians & DJs: Community forums are venting that Meta restricts mix sharing, imposing a sudden two-link-per-month limit on non-paying creators.
  • Local Small Businesses: Entrepreneurs relying on Facebook groups or business pages to link to booking sites, menus, or Shopify stores are locked out of organic traffic unless they pay.
  • Newsrooms & Independent Journalists: According to reports by The Guardian and Social Media Today, this is a devastating blow to publishers who rely on Facebook for web traffic.
  • Creators in “Professional Mode”: Everyday users who turned on Professional Mode for performance analytics are finding themselves trapped in this pay-to-play system.

The “Meta One” & “Meta Verified” Multi-Tier Subscription Trap

Industry experts, including social media analyst Matt Navarra, have highlighted that Meta is seeking to offset massive AI infrastructure spending by bundling essential organic reach features behind subscriptions.

To milk creators at every scale, Meta has quietly expanded its pricing model on the Meta Verified Hub into an aggressive multi-tiered structure:

  • Standard Tier ($14.99/month): Basic account verification.
  • Plus Tier ($49.99/month): Moderate features. A limit of 2 external links per month.
  • Premium Tier ($149.99/month): Forces a limit of 8 links per month.
  • Max Tier ($499.99/month): The “unlimited” link sharing highway robbery.

The “Link in the Comments” Loophole is Dead

Historically, when Facebook restricted links in captions, creators bypassed it by writing “link in the comments”.

That workaround is now dying. Meta’s algorithm has evolved to treat external links as “traffic leaks”. If you attempt to drop a link in the comments, Meta employs three tactics to shut you down:

  1. Blocking Links: You try to post a link and get a pop-up telling you that you cannot post links until you subscribe to Meta One.
  2. Ghosting (Shadowbanning): You can see your comment, but it is invisible to your audience.
  3. Stripping Hyperlinks: The link is posted as plain, unclickable text.
  4. Throttling Reach: The algorithm actively suppresses the organic reach of your post if it detects you posting a link in the comments immediately after.

3 Strategies Meta Does Not Block (Yet)

You do not have to pay Meta $500 a month to maintain your business. By shifting your strategy, you can completely bypass Meta’s payment prompts.

1. The “Comment to DM” Automation Hook

While Meta restricts links pointing to the public web, it encourages private messaging because it increases in-app engagement.

  • The Strategy: Share high-value educational content. At the end, prompt your audience: “Comment the word BRAIN below, and I will message you the private signup link for my upcoming class.”
  • Why It Works: When users comment, Facebook’s algorithm flags the post as highly engaging and pushes it to more feeds. You then share the link privately in their DM, which is completely unrestricted.
  • Pro-Tip: Utilize official Meta-partner automation tools (like ManyChat) to automatically message the link to anyone who comments your keyword.

2. The Bio Link “Air Gap”

Meta cannot charge you to put a link in your personal profile or page bio.

  • The Strategy: Host a single landing page link (e.g., Linktree, Milkshake, or your direct website) in your profile bio.
  • The Caption: At the bottom of your post, write: “I can’t post external links here due to Meta’s new creator restrictions. Tap my name to view my profile and click the main link in my bio to grab my books.”

3. The Graphic Text Workaround

Meta’s automated scanners aggressively look for “http”, “.com”, or “.org” in text captions and comments, but they are significantly less effective at scanning text embedded inside images.

  • The Strategy: Use a free design tool like Canva to create a clean, professional image containing a quote or key takeaway. Place your short website URL directly into the graphic in a clean, legible font.
  • Why It Works: Although users cannot click the image, interested readers will type the clean URL into their browser. Additionally, Meta’s algorithm naturally favors image and video posts over plain text.

Shift from “Traffic” to “Community”

The old digital marketing playbook was simple: Post Link → Get Clicks → Make Sale. Meta killed this system to force creators to pay for what used to be free.

The new framework for independent creators must be: Post Value → Start Conversations → Move to DMs → Build Community Around Your Website. By moving your relationships off their timeline and into your own ecosystem, you can bypass Meta’s extortion entirely.

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Where Most Pain Books Go Wrong 

Posted on September 11, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

Even in otherwise groundbreaking or compassionate pain and trauma literature, it’s common for clinicians to bypass that many people with recurrent pain are still in danger or unsafety. Even when authors deeply understand the biology or psychology of pain, many fall into the trap of treating the individual nervous system as the central problem, rather than acknowledging the persistent social, medical, or relational harms that are still occurring and often causing or sustaining that pain.

Here’s a look at how six prominent books tend to frame pain, and where they fall short from an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB)-informed, context-aware perspective:

“Pain: The Science of Suffering” by Patrick Wall

Wall is foundational in understanding pain as a brain-mediated process. He emphasizes that pain isn’t a direct readout of tissue damage but an interpretation. However, he focuses on the biology of pain in isolation from lived relational or cultural dynamics. So there is a bypass; he treats pain as something the brain does with input, not something that is also shaped by the safety or threat in our relationships, environments, or systems.

“How to Live Well with Chronic Pain and Illness” by Toni Bernhard

Toni Bernhard brings in mindfulness and Buddhist-informed acceptance, which can be profoundly helpful for many. But her work often emphasizes internal orientation–accepting, reframing, and letting go–without deep exploration of external sources of harm (e.g., medical invalidation, systemic neglect). This can unintentionally bypass the fact that the person is still not being adequately cared for or believed, and that survival responses may remain active for good reason.

“The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk

Van der Kolk does recognize that trauma often arises from interpersonal betrayal and systemic harm. He names abuse, neglect, racism, and injustice. But even so, many applications of his work focus on healing the individual’s nervous system, sometimes overlooking whether the social field around the person has actually changed. The deeper cultural bypass often happens in how people apply his ideas, not always in the book itself.

“Freedom from Pain” by Maggie Phillips & Peter Levine

Levine’s somatic experiencing model is built around the body’s natural capacity to resolve trauma when given the chance. This is powerful, but it still often assumes the threat is in the past, and that the system can now complete the defensive responses that were blocked. In reality, for many people–especially survivors of medical trauma, racism, or ongoing systemic violence–the threat is still active. There’s little in the book that helps a reader assess or name when the danger is not over, which can lead to blaming the body for “staying stuck.”

“The Meaning of Pain” by Nick Potter

Potter links pain to emotional suppression and unprocessed life events. He’s compassionate, and does suggest that pain has meaning, but again, his focus is mostly on internal dynamics. He doesn’t spend much time on the sociocultural or relational conditions that reinforce pain or prevent safety, so it can land as subtly blaming or minimizing, especially for people whose pain arises from relational betrayal or medical harm.

“Explain Pain” by David Butler & Lorimer Moseley

This is one of the most popular neuroscience-based approaches to pain, rooted in the idea that “pain does not mean damage.” Their educational tools are widely used and effective for many, but they are not trauma-informed, and certainly not IPNB-informed. They often dismiss the emotional and relational roots of suffering, and their model can feel like it expects people to “think their way out of pain” once they “understand” it. This bypasses the social reality for many trauma survivors and disregards the body’s need for co-regulation and genuine safety.

These books honor the fact that pain is more than just tissue damage, and emphasize brain plasticity, nervous system retraining, or acceptance. But most of them bypass two key truths: pain is often a response to current unsafety, not just outdated memory, and healing requires not just inner work, but safe connection, trust, and the repair of betrayal or abandonment—especially from those who were supposed to help.

From an IPNB perspective, pain is a relational signal. And if the relationship between you and your culture, or you and your doctor, or you and your past still involves danger, gaslighting, or invalidation, your system is not misfiring. It’s telling the truth.

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You Don’t Heal Pain by Convincing Yourself That You’re Safe, but When Safety  Becomes Real

Posted on September 10, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

Many popular books on pain and trauma offer a version of hope: that the pain you live with doesn’t mean your body is broken; that your brain can change, your suffering can ease, and you’re not stuck. And they’re right, in part. Pain does not always reflect tissue damage. Chronic pain often reflects a nervous system stuck in protection mode. That’s powerful knowledge.

But too often, these books place the burden entirely on the individual to change. They ask people to retrain their pain, regulate their emotions, or accept their suffering, without asking whether the person is still being harmed. Without asking whether the conditions have changed. Without naming that, for many people, the pain is not the echo of an old danger. It is the accurate report of a present one.

Patrick Wall’s “Pain: The Science of Suffering” changed how we understand pain. He showed that pain is not a simple reflex but an interpretation. But he focused on biology in a vacuum, ignoring the emotional, relational, and systemic dimensions of suffering.

Toni Bernhard’s “How to Live Well with Chronic Pain” and Illness brings a warm, mindful lens. But her emphasis is on inner adjustment–acceptance, letting go, finding peace–without recognizing how hard it is to heal when you’re still not being believed or supported.

Bessel van der Kolk’s “The Body Keeps the Score” goes further. He acknowledges how trauma stems from betrayal, powerlessness, and broken relationships. But in practice, many readers come away thinking the task is to heal the body’s memory, even when the world still denies your truth. His model doesn’t always account for what happens when trauma hasn’t ended, when you’re still being dismissed by doctors, gaslit by systems, or left out of care altogether.

Peter Levine’s “Freedom from Pain” teaches that the body can complete old defensive responses and release trapped energy. But this assumes the threat is over. It rarely asks: what if the person still has to face a dehumanizing system next week? What if the danger was never acknowledged, and still isn’t?

Nick Potter’s “The Meaning of Pain” encourages people to find what their pain might be telling them. But again, the focus is on the internal. It suggests that emotional suppression causes pain, but doesn’t go far enough in exploring how society suppresses people, and how pain can be the only truthful language left when no one listens.

David Butler and Lorimer Moseley’s “Explain Pain” is widely respected in physiotherapy and neuroscience circles. It teaches that understanding pain can help reduce it. But it’s not trauma-informed. It doesn’t address real fear, betrayal, or abandonment. It treats pain like a puzzle of mistaken danger, without asking: what if the danger is real and ongoing?

Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv’s “The Way Out” comes closer to offering compassion and science together. They teach that pain is often a false alarm and that we can learn to relate to it with curiosity and safety. But again, the model assumes the person is safe now. It doesn’t always offer the tools to support someone who isn’t. When people still face structural violence, medical dismissal, or repeated violations, telling them the alarm is false is gaslighting. Their body isn’t stuck. It’s responding.

These books contain important insights and have helped many people. But most of them ask the individual to change without holding society accountable for its harm. They offer personal tools while skipping over collective responsibility. They ask us to retrain our pain but don’t ask whether anyone will finally treat us with dignity and care.

Real healing requires more than just how we interpret pain. It includes addressing what our pain indicates. It depends on whether someone will listen, respond, protect, or repair. The pain isn’t just in your brain. It’s in the betrayal, neglect, and silence. And your body knows.

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Why Chronic Pain is So Exhausting

Posted on September 9, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

People often think of pain as something you should be able to push through if you’re determined enough. That isn’t how recurrent pain works.

When my pain is high, it changes everything. My attention is pulled toward it because my body has decided this is the most important thing happening. Reading becomes harder. Following conversations takes more effort. Planning, organizing, remembering what I was about to do, making decisions, even finding the right words can be surprisingly difficult. It isn’t because I’m lazy, unmotivated, or “not trying,” but because pain uses an enormous amount of my body’s resources.

The harder my body has to work just to get through the day, the less capacity I have for everything else. Then there is the exhaustion that settles into your whole body after hours, days, months, or years of carrying pain that never really lets up. You wake up tired. You spend the day managing symptoms. Every appointment, every insurance phone call, every medication, every specialist, every new treatment takes more time, attention, energy, and hope. That carousel becomes a job in itself.

Our brains and bodies are always trying to keep us alive. Persistent pain tells the whole system that something important needs attention. Over time, it becomes harder to shift attention away from the pain because it has become the loudest signal. As more energy goes into managing pain, there is less available for curiosity, learning, creativity, social connection, problem solving, or simply enjoying being alive.

Your window of tolerance becomes smaller. Things that might have felt manageable before can suddenly feel overwhelming: noise, crowds, conflict, unexpected changes, or even making dinner or answering a text can feel like one demand too many.That means your body has less room left for one more thing.

This is one reason people living with persistent pain are so often misunderstood. Others may only see someone canceling plans, forgetting things, withdrawing, or moving more slowly. They don’t see the constant work beneath the surface.

The hopeful part is that we understand far more about this than we used to.

Relationships that feel safe. Moments of genuine connection. Rest that actually allows your body to settle. Gentle movement that respects your limits. Time in nature. Music. Laughter. Breathing that slows the whole body. Small experiences of comfort and pleasure that your nervous system can actually take in. These are not “positive thinking.” They are experiences that can gradually help your body spend more time in states where healing, flexibility, and engagement become more possible. None of this erases pain overnight.But it can begin to give your body more choices than pain alone has been offering.

For many of us, our quality of life begins to grow again. The pain has not disappeared, our lives no longer have to revolve entirely around it.

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Don’t Walk Away From Your Feet: The Hidden Cost of Pushing Through Foot Pain

Posted on September 8, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

“Foot Pain,” representing the 6 painful chronic conditions in my feet. Watercolors, ink, psychiatric hospital pencil, 12×9″

How often do you hear yourself or someone complain about their feet, only to follow it up with a shrug and a phrase like, “Well, I guess I’m just getting older,” or “I’ve been on my feet all day”?

Our culture glorifies pushing through pain. We treat our feet like tires on a car, expected to roll over rough terrain endlessly without care until they blow out. But our feet are intricate, living foundations composed of 26 bones, 33 joints, and over a hundred muscles, tendons, and nerves. When we ignore their distress signals, we are slowly laying the groundwork for severe, long-term physical and neurological breakdown.

If you are currently ignoring foot pain, I want to share what happens when you keep pushing, and why addressing foot distress early is one of the greatest acts of self-care you can offer your entire nervous system.

The Cost of Pushing Through

My understanding of foot pain isn’t theoretical; it was built step by painful step over a lifetime.

As a child, I hated shoes. They felt like torture devices. That’s because I didn’t have shoes fitted to my own feet, but wore hand-me-downs from my sister. Growing feet are made largely of malleable cartilage. When you force a developing foot into someone else’s worn-down shoe pattern, you force soft, growing bones to adapt to an unnatural mold. My instinct to go barefoot was my body trying to protect itself.

Fast forward to adulthood: a night out at a governor’s inaugural ball in 2006 spent dancing in high heels became an acceleration chamber for structural damage. Forcing nearly my entire body weight onto the balls of my feet jammed joint spaces, stretched delicate tissues beyond their limits, and laid the groundwork for years of cumulative damage.

Because early warning signs were pushed through or missed by medical professionals who failed to provide proper structural support, minor issues compounded into five severe, interlocking diagnoses:

  • Plantar Fasciitis & Bone Spurs: Chronic micro-tears along the arch tissue leading to painful calcium deposits pressing into soft tissues.
  • Fallen Mid-Foot & Joint Arthritis: The total collapse of the foot’s natural shock absorber, causing bones to grind together with every step.
  • Splayed Toes: Forefoot widening to compensate for midfoot instability, compressing delicate interdigital nerves.
  • Bilateral Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS): A severe neuro-inflammatory condition where the central nervous system amplifies structural distress into a continuous, high-voltage burning pain in both feet and up into the lower legs.

After two full years of severe immobility–having to rebuild my walking capacity almost entirely on my own after being failed by conventional care–I finally found shoes that provided genuine structural stabilization without transferring stress to my knees. Returning to walking has been a profound victory, but it required unlearning a lifetime of “pushing through.”

Interpersonal Neurobiology: Why Feet and Nervous Systems Are Connected

To understand why foot pain spirals so quickly, it helps to look through the lens of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), a framework that explores how our mind, brain, body, and relationships constantly shape one another.

At the heart of IPNB is the concept of neuroception: our nervous system’s subconscious radar for safety versus threat. Healing requires a state of felt safety. When your body feels safe, your nervous system rests, digests, and repairs. When your body detects threat, it shifts into defense, tightening muscles, raising inflammation, and sharpening pain signals.

Your feet are your primary physical connection to the earth. They are the physical baseline of your felt safety.

  • The Physical Security Signal: When your feet are aligned and supported, every step sends a subtle message to your brain: We are grounded. We are stable. The ground is supporting us.
  • The Threat Signal: When you walk on collapsing arches or pinched nerves, every step sends a flash of distress up the spinal cord: Instability! Danger! Damage!

When you ignore foot pain and “push through,” you force your brain into a state of chronic alarm. Over time, the mind-body system adapts to this constant distress. The brain’s pain volume dial gets stuck on high, a process known as central sensitization. Chronic physical pain loses its local boundary and begins to flood your emotional state, making you feel irritable, exhausted, and disconnected from your own body.

Furthermore, IPNB highlights how trauma and systemic invalidation compound physical distress. When health systems or caregivers dismiss your pain or fail to listen, your nervous system learns that help isn’t coming. This lack of relational safety makes the physical pain feel even more overwhelming. True recovery begins when you tune in, honor your body’s signals, and provide your physical frame with the safety and attunement for which it has been begging.

The Cascade Effect: What Happens When You Wait

When you ignore foot pain, the body doesn’t just “get used to it.” It makes silent, highly damaging compromises:

Stage of Delay Structural Impact Nervous System & Kinetic Impact
Early Warning Minor arch fatigue, slight heel stiffness, mild crowding of toes. Nervous system flags local discomfort; tissue is highly resilient and easily corrected.
Compensatory Shift Weight shifts to the outer foot; plantar fascia stretches to its limit; micro-tearing begins. Gait changes to avoid pain, throwing off alignment in the ankle, knee, hip, and lower back.
Structural Breakdown Arch collapses; midfoot bones grind; joint cartilage wears down; body forms bone spurs. Pain signals become constant. Proprioceptors (joint sensors) fire continuous alarm loops to the spinal cord.
Neurological Locking Deep structural deformities lock in; soft tissues scar and stiffen permanently. Central Sensitization: The brain turns up the pain amplifier. Non-painful stimuli (like socks or bedsheets) begin to hurt.

Resolving a problem at the Early Warning stage might require simple changes: wide toe-box footwear, gentle strengthening, or custom support. Resolving it at the Neurological Locking stage requires months or years of careful pacing, nerve blocks, and grueling physical rehabilitation.

Reclaiming Your Ground: Why Early Action is Essential

If you feel pain in your feet today, do not ignore it. Do not wait for a doctor to give you permission to take your comfort seriously, and do not accept shoes that squeeze, pinch, or distort your feet for the sake of fashion or convention.

  1. Listen to the Sensation: Pain is not a failure of willpower; it is communication. It is your nervous system asking for a change in input.
  2. Prioritize Structural Stability: Look for footwear that allows your toes to spread naturally, supports your midfoot, and keeps your heels stable without forcing your body to compensate up the kinetic chain.
  3. Protect Your Pacing: If you are recovering from foot issues, use the 24-hour rule: if your pain is higher 24 hours after an activity than it was before, you pushed past your nervous system’s safety threshold. Scale back and build slowly.
  4. Cultivate Felt Safety: Treat your feet with the same care and attunement you would offer a loved one in pain. Resting, elevating, and supporting your feet tells your nervous system that it is safe to down-regulate and heal.

It is vastly easier to preserve healthy foot mechanics today than it is to rebuild a collapsed foundation tomorrow. Give your feet the care, space, and support they need now. Your future self and your entire nervous system will thank you.

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Treating My CRPS and Becoming the Hunter Were the Same

Posted on September 7, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

For years I had CRPS in my feet and legs without knowing what it was. I wasn’t diagnosed until six years ago, but by 2016 it had become so severe that I cried when I walked. I also knew that if I stopped walking, my world would keep shrinking. So I walked every day.

At the time, I was renting a basement room from friends. Soon after I moved in, I realized the grocery store near their house was the same one where my father would shop. He had been a monster to me throughout my childhood and on into adulthood, and I realized there was a chance I might run into him there. Instead of avoiding that possibility, I made it my destination.

I decided I wanted to look him in the eye one last time as someone he could no longer hurt. I didn’t need an apology. I didn’t need him to admit anything. I wanted to know that I could sit across from him without my body organizing itself around him. I decided I would know I was ready when I could walk to his house and back.

Every day I walked until my body told me it was time to turn around, and then I turned around. The next day, I started again. Some days I went a little farther. Some days I didn’t. My body, not my determination, decided where the turnaround point would be. 

Looking back, that may have been the most important part. I wasn’t fighting my body. I was learning to work with it. Every walk became another experience of listening instead of overriding, respecting instead of demanding. My world expanded because my body and I expanded it together. Eventually, one day, I reached my father’s house. I could have turned around, but instead, I circled it. 

Years earlier, Deep/Process psychologist David Bederick said something that stayed with me: to stop being the hunted, I had to become the hunter. At the time I understood that intuitively. Circling my father’s house, I understood it in my body. I wasn’t there to threaten him or take revenge, but to change the relationship. For the first time in my life, I wasn’t orienting myself around his power over me. I was the one choosing where to go, how long to stay, and when to leave.

Interpersonal Neurobiology helps explain why such experiences are important. Our brains and bodies don’t change because we think different thoughts, but through repeated lived experiences. Day after day, my body experienced moving closer to the house of my abuser, and that I listened when it said, “That’s enough for today.” Day after day, it experienced that we could move toward something that had once represented terror without having to disappear in the process. Those repeated experiences gradually changed what my body expected. The destination was meaningful, but the relationship I was building with my own body mattered even more.

Some time later I sat across from my father while he was telling a family story. I looked him directly in the eye. I saw the briefest flicker of recognition in his eye, like a fleck of opal catching the light for an instant. He knew why I was there, and he knew that I knew what he had done to me in my infancy. That was my satisfaction.

Looking back now, I see that treating my CRPS and changing my relationship with my father were the same process. Those daily walks changed both. They changed my relationship with pain, with my body, with choice, and with the man who had once worked relentlessly to make my world as painful as he could. I wasn’t training myself to tolerate more pain, but giving my body repeated experiences of agency, choice, and trust. It seems to me that I was retraining those pathways every time I walked until my body said, “It’s time to turn around,” and I listened.

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Understanding Recurrent Pain: Brain, Body, Environment, and Practical Skills

Posted on September 4, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

 

Understanding Recurrent Pain: Brain, Body, Environment, and Practical Skills

A new IPNB-informed online workshop presented by Imogen Ragone and Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

Your pain is real. Understanding it is the first step in recovery.

 


Tuesday, September 15, 2026
11:00 AM – 12:30 PM US Eastern Time
(Click here to find your time zone)

Delivered Live on Zoom

Choose the price that best suit your circumstances when you register.

REGISTER NOWWhy does pain sometimes keep returning, even when nothing new has happened?

Why can the same condition feel completely different from one day to the next?

And why do stress, relationships, environment, expectations, past experiences, and the way we relate to our bodies affect pain?

Pain is more complicated than “something is wrong with the body.”

In this 90-minute workshop, Imogen and Shay will look at recurrent pain through an Interpersonal Neurobiology-informed perspective. They will bring together what is known about the brain, nervous system, body, relationships, environment, stress, and neuroplasticity, and look at what this means for people who live with pain that keeps coming back.

There will be information, discussion, and experiential practices. Nothing is required. You can participate in whatever way works for you.

This is not a workshop about positive thinking or pretending pain isn’t real.

It’s an opportunity to look at pain differently and consider what else may be influencing your experience.

Everyone who registers will:

  • Learn practices to help when you’re in pain.
  • Receive workshop slides, as well as other notes and resources.
  • Get access to a recording of the whole workshop.
  • Get a Bonus Guided Constructive Rest session (and replay) with Imogen to help with chronic/recurrent pain. This session is taking place Friday, September 18 from 2:30 to 3:00 PM US Eastern Time on Zoom, and all workshop participants will automatically be registered at no extra cost.

Workshop Details:

This introductory workshop is 90 minutes long and will take place online using Zoom. A recording will be provided to all who register.

Date: Tuesday, September 15, 2026

Time: 11:00 AM – 12:30 PM US Eastern Time (Click here to find your time zone)

Workshop Cost:
We have a 3-tier cost structure. Please choose the one that best suits your circumstances:

  • Abundance: $75
    I am happy to pay more right now to help support those who cannot.
  • Basic: $45
    I am able to pay the basic workshop fee.
  • Reduced Rate: $15
    I am economically challenged at the moment.

If you can afford more, your contributions are greatly appreciated, and help support others who cannot.

If you need a full scholarship to be able to attend, please contact Imogen.

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Bonus Session

Included with your workshop registration is free access to Imogen’s half-hour Guided Constructive Rest session to help with chronic / recurring pain, which will use ideas presented in this workshop.

Date: Friday, September 18, 2026

Time: 2:30-3:00 PM US Eastern Time
(Click her to find your time zone)

Recording Provided

Cost: FREE for workshop participants*

*You will be automatically signed up for this session when you register for the workshop. You do not need to sign up separately.

Note: You can benefit from this Constructive Rest session in whatever position is comfortable for you – sitting or lying down. For more information about Imogen’s Guided Constructive Rest sessions, click here.

IMPORTANT NOTE:
These classes are educational, not therapy. Imogen teaches BodyIntelligence, based on the Alexander Technique, and Shay teaches Relational Neuroscience. Neither is a therapist, and these classes are not a substitute for mental health or medical treatment.

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Meet the Presenters!

Imogen and Shay

Imogen and Shay have been working together for nine years, starting when Shay first came to Imogen as a client. Over time, as Shay studied neurobiology and neuroscience to help them understand and resolve PTSD, they increasingly understood that BodyIntelligence provides a very neuropositive approach and practice – so helpful it is one of their core resources in helping them rebuild and regulate their own nervous system.

Shay and Imogen have been collaborating for over five years to offer courses, workshops and programs for people dealing with trauma or stress. In this collaboration Shay’s experience as a trauma survivor and their understanding of the neuroscience relating to trauma is paired with practical tools and concepts from the Alexander Technique and Imogen’s BodyIntelligence work.

Imogen Ragone, M.AmSAT (She/Her) has been a certified teacher of the Alexander Technique since 2006, and a student of the work for well over 25 years. She initially came to Alexander Technique to help her with chronic neck and shoulder pain and tension. It did – and gave her MUCH more than she ever imagined. Imogen has now developed her own unique approach, BodyIntelligence, that offers a path to embodied mindfulness that is gentle and non-coercive. This means it is more accessible and effective when you are feeling stressed or anxious, and makes it especially valuable to traumatized people. Imogen was born and raised in England, and has lived in the US now for over 30 years. She has been successfully working with clients online, both individually and in groups, since 2014.

More about Imogen and her work:
Website: imogenragone.com
Facebook Page: BodyIntelligence with Imogen Ragone
Facebook Group: BodyIntelligence Community

Shay Seaborne, CPTSD (They/Them) is a survivor of severe developmental trauma and medical trauma, and lives with Complex PTSD (CPTSD). Out of necessity they have studied and applied the neurobiology of fear, trauma, and PTSD for over 11 years. Shay writes, speaks, and makes art to convey their experiences as well as their understanding of the neurobiology of fear, trauma theory, and principles of trauma recovery. Shay wishes everyone could recognize PTSD is not a mental health problem, but a neurophysiological condition rooted in dysregulation. Our mainstream culture is neuro-negative, and we need to understand we can heal ourselves and each other through awareness, understanding, and safe connection.

More about Shay and their work:
Websites: shayseaborne.com and TraumaAwareAmerica.org
Facebook Page: Trauma Aware America
Instagram: @shayseaborne_cptsd

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Artwork: “Your pain is real” by Shay Seaborne CPTSD
Photograph of Shay by Bayou Elom.
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Characteristics of Integrated Relationships

Posted on September 2, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

An integrated relationship integrates the individual by creating conditions that allow internal processes to remain connected while being altered through interaction with another person who is doing the same. In an integrated relationship, both people stay in contact with their own thoughts, emotions, body sensations, and awareness of what is around them while also being affected by each other. Both people can stay grounded in themselves while still being influenced through contact.

When integration is missing, people tend to lose access to parts of their own experience or misunderstand what the other person communicates. The interaction becomes less flexible. One person may take over the space, the other may shut down or step back, or both people may get stuck in repeating the same misunderstandings without finding their way back to repair. Instead of a steady back-and-forth that adjusts as things shift, the pattern becomes rigid, reactive, or disconnected.

In healthier relational patterns, there is a steady baseline of safety, attention, and the ability to come back into balance after things get off track. Each person notices small changes in the other, like tone of voice, posture, or facial expression, and responds appropriately. This creates a shared process in which both people help regulate the interaction without one person taking control or overriding the other.

Such interaction supports flexibility. Differences can exist without being punished or erased, and boundaries can be held without overwhelm or withdrawal. Misunderstandings are addressed and repaired instead of building. There is also room for humor, play, shared attention, and positive moments, which strengthens connection and makes it easier to recover from stress. The energy and information flow moves in both directions rather than being carried by one person.

Relationships that support integration stabilize how a person experiences themselves. Stress eases, thinking becomes less rigid, emotional responses are more flexible, and there is more capacity to stay present with complexity.

Signs of this appear in small, repeated moments. Each person notices changes in the other without needing everything spelled out. When something goes wrong, there is an effort to repair it instead of ignoring, denying, or shifting blame. Feelings are taken seriously even when they are inconvenient or not fully understood. It feels possible to speak honestly without expecting punishment or ridicule. Support goes both ways, and both people can help each other settle when things are intense. Boundaries are respected, and space is allowed when needed without retaliation or guilt.

Paying attention to these patterns helps clarify whether a relationship supports integration or keeps someone stuck in survival-based patterns. Many common social environments normalize the more disruptive patterns, especially those shaped by hierarchy, competition, and emotional dismissal. Because of this, steady and reciprocal relationships are less common and often require intentional choice, clear boundaries, and ongoing attention to how the interaction feels.

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The Interpersonal Neurobiology of Sleep

Posted on August 31, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

Sleep is one of the main ways the brain and body restore balance after the demands of the day. During sleep, the brain sorts and stores memories, processes emotional experiences, and clears away metabolic waste that builds up while we’re awake. It helps different parts of the brain communicate more effectively, which supports attention, learning, decision-making, and creativity.

From an Interpersonal Neurobiology perspective, sleep supports integration. It helps our nervous system coordinate information across the body, brain, and relationships. When sleep is disrupted, we become more vulnerable to threat responses, emotional reactivity, pain, inflammation, and difficulty connecting with others. When sleep is sufficient, we are more able to regulate our emotions, think clearly, recover from stress, and engage with the people around us in ways that promote health and well-being.

Sleep is not a luxury or a reward for getting everything done. It is a biological need that shapes how we feel, think, heal, and relate to one another every day.

The quality of our sleep emerges from the interaction of the body, brain, relationships, environment, stress load, physical health, and daily rhythms. Sleep disruption is often a sign that multiple systems are under strain rather than evidence of a personal failure or disorder.

Through an IPNB lens the question is, “What conditions is this person’s body living in that make sleep difficult?” before asking, “What technique can we use to force sleep?” That often leads to more useful solutions.

Key IPNB-informed points:

  • Sleep supports integration across the brain and body. It helps organize memory, learning, emotional processing, immune function, pain regulation, and recovery.

  • Chronic stress shifts the body toward vigilance. When vigilance remains elevated, falling asleep, staying asleep, and returning to sleep after waking can become more difficult.

  • Human beings evolved as social creatures. A sense of safety, belonging, and predictability often supports sleep, while isolation, conflict, uncertainty, and social threat can interfere with it.

  • Sleep problems are often effects rather than primary problems. Pain, grief, trauma, financial stress, caregiving burdens, medical conditions, medications, environmental disruption, and lack of social support can all contribute.

  • The body tends to sleep best when daily rhythms are predictable. Regular exposure to daylight, movement, meals, and social contact helps anchor circadian timing.

  • Sleep is strongly connected to homeostasis. When multiple physiological needs are unmet, sleep quality often suffers.

Things that often help:

  • Get outdoor morning light within the first hour after waking, even if only for 10 to 20 minutes.

  • Wake up at roughly the same time each day, including weekends when possible.

  • Increase daytime movement, particularly walking outdoors.

  • Avoid spending long periods indoors under artificial lighting without natural light exposure.

  • Eat meals on a reasonably consistent schedule.

  • Reduce stimulating activities during the hour before bed.

  • Keep the sleep environment cool, dark, and quiet.

  • Address pain, breathing issues, reflux, medication side effects, and other physical contributors.

  • Build more moments of genuine social connection during the day. Positive social contact can influence physiological regulation in ways that support sleep later.

  • If your mind becomes busy at night, externalize unfinished tasks by writing them down rather than trying to hold them mentally.

  • If you cannot sleep after a prolonged period, get up and do something quiet and low-stimulation until sleepiness returns rather than spending hours frustrated in bed.

Things that are often overlooked:

  • Loneliness can affect sleep.

  • Ongoing conflict in important relationships can affect sleep.

  • Financial insecurity can affect sleep.

  • Chronic pain can affect sleep.

  • Excessive caffeine, alcohol, and cannabis use can all affect sleep architecture, even when they seem to help initially.

  • Sleep problems are frequently reduced when the broader conditions supporting regulation improve, even if no sleep-specific intervention is used.

When Nighttime is Associated With Danger

When sleep has been linked with traumatic experiences, the goal is not to trick or force the body into sleeping. The goal is to create conditions that help the body gradually learn that the present is different from the past.

  • Many people with nighttime trauma histories find that early morning feels safer because daylight is approaching, other people are waking up, and the environment feels more predictable.

  • Lack of daylight exposure, especially during winter, can make it harder for the circadian system to anchor itself. Morning light is one of the strongest signals that helps regulate sleep timing, mood, energy, and hormone rhythms.

  • Trying to force an earlier bedtime often backfires because it increases performance pressure around sleep and reinforces the association between bed and frustration.

Instead of focusing on “going to bed earlier,” it can be more useful to focus on gradually increasing cues of safety and predictability throughout the day and evening.

Some possibilities include:

  • Start with the wake time rather than the bedtime. Even shifting wake time earlier by 15 to 30 minutes every week can help move the sleep schedule gradually.

  • Prioritize morning daylight exposure as soon as possible after waking, even if it’s later in the day than most people. If natural light is limited in winter, a clinically appropriate light box may help.

  • Create experiences of connection and regulation before bed. A phone call with a trusted person, listening to a familiar voice, spending time with a pet, or engaging in calming social rituals can help counter isolation.

  • Reduce the contrast between daytime and nighttime. Soft lighting, familiar sounds, weighted blankets if tolerated, or white noise can help create continuity rather than an abrupt transition into silence and darkness.

  • Consider whether complete darkness feels supportive or activating. Some people with trauma histories sleep better with a small amount of light.

  • Address environmental cues that increase vigilance. Locks checked once, pathways cleared, comfortable room temperature, reducing unexpected noises, and having needed items nearby can help.

  • Finding ways to increase light exposure and movement during waking hours may help strengthen the body’s daily rhythms.

  • If you cannot sleep, leaving the bed for a quiet, low-demand activity can prevent the bed itself from becoming associated with struggle.

Focusing on “What conditions help this person’s body feel safe enough to allow sleep to emerge?” can reduce shame and open the door to solutions that match the person’s lived experience rather than asking them to push harder against their own biology.

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Embodied, Safe, and Present: Qigong as Nervous System Support

Posted on August 31, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

I have been building a Qigong practice for about 18 months, and am impressed by the multiple benefits. Within weeks, I felt more freedom and less pain and tension across my upper body. Now, I find I am more present and embodied, too.

From an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) Perspective, this 4,000 year-old movement exercise is understood as a practice that cultivates awareness, attunement, and regulation through movement, breath, and attention. It provides predictable, safe input to the nervous system, supporting coherence across body, mind, and relational capacities.

Enhances Self-Regulation: Qigong trains interoception (the ability to sense internal bodily states), which helps individuals recognize stress or tension and engage in self-regulation before becoming overwhelmed or shutting down. The intentional movements act as internal relational signals of safety.

Core Benefit: It supports resilience, reduces allostatic load, and improves one’s capacity for attunement by teaching the nervous system patterns of safety, predictability, and connection.

Group Practice and Co-regulation: In a small group, Qigong creates a shared field of attention and rhythm. People naturally attune to the collective steadiness, which is a powerful form of co-regulation that helps the system loosen its guard. It offers a rare experience of collective, non-judgmental movement, which can quiet internal alarms related to a culture of comparison and competition.

A trusted instructor deepens the experience by offering a steadying presence. Their pacing and tone act as cues for the system to settle, allowing for greater presence, deeper breath, and more easeful movement. This steadiness serves as a reference point for genuine co-regulation that spreads throughout the group.

A Good Place to  Start: Mimi Kuo-Deemer’s “8 Brocades” video. Her description: “This is the qigong practice of the 8 Brocades, or Baduanjin. Regular practice is believed to improve organ function and overall wellbeing. It was filmed in Beijing in September, 2014. Watch out for some cameo appearances from interested onlookers and passers-by! [That one guy cracks me up every time!] Hope you enjoy it.”

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