Category Archives: Family
The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Future Kids
If you’re thinking about having children someday, you might picture giving them love, stability, guidance, and maybe a few cherished traditions. But one gift shapes all the others: your own cohesive life story. A cohesive narrative means you can look … Continue reading
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Tagged children, cohesive narrative, family, IPNB, liberation, narrative, parents
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Remembering the Kind of Man My Father Was
When I was nine years old, my mother took my siblings and me–and the contents of the marital bank account–and fled. She was trying to protect herself and her children from her husband, who was highly narcissistic and abusive to … Continue reading
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Tagged abuse, accountability, child abuse, child sex abuse, family, father, justice
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A Dick Move Dressed As Generosity
I recently realized something important about my multi-millionaire brother, the one who stepped into the role of replacement patriarch after our father died. At first, he showed some empathy. He said he understood that women and girls are disadvantaged in … Continue reading
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Tagged brother, control, disconnection, Domination, family, finances, IPNB, money, patriarch, power
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The Patriarch’s Ledger: A Tale of Power and Estrangement
Several years ago, my brother told me that he intended to leave his multi-million dollar estate to my sister, me, and our female children, because he understood that women are at a disadvantage in this culture. It struck me as … Continue reading
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Tagged alienation, brother, Domination, estate, family, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, money, no contact, patriarchy
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Randy Shrugged: Generational Trauma Emotionally Eviscerated My Husband
When I was married to Randy*, I was in a constant state of confusion and loneliness. I’d ask what he felt, what he needed, what was going on between us. He’d shrug, tilt his head and say, “I don’t know.” … Continue reading
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Tagged disconnection, divorce, intergenerational trauma, IPNB, Marriage, shrug, spouse
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