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When “I’ll Pray for You” is a Symptom of Disconnection

I reached out to my brothers when I was in a protracted and deep struggle. I asked for safe connection, acknowledgment, and support. I needed them to see me and recognize how repeated abuse from the disease management industry had … Continue reading

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A Dick Move Dressed As Generosity 

I recently realized something important about my multi-millionaire brother, the one who stepped into the role of replacement patriarch after our father died. At first, he showed some empathy. He said he understood that women and girls are disadvantaged in … Continue reading

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The Patriarch’s Ledger: A Tale of Power and Estrangement

Several years ago, my brother told me that he intended to leave his multi-million dollar estate to my sister, me, and our female children, because he understood that women are at a disadvantage in this culture. It struck me as … Continue reading

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The Rise of the Replacement Patriarch

Every dysfunctional family system seems to require a patriarchal figure to maintain its fragile balance. After my father’s death in late 2019, complex dynamics quickly created the opportunity for my youngest brother (YB) to step into that role, bypassing the … Continue reading

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