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The 17-Gun Salute That Shattered Me

Posted on May 8, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

Five years ago, during a year near death, one of the most intense stressors wasn’t the medical neglect or the endless fight for even minimal care. It was sound. The moment that shattered me was the 17–gun salute at my … Continue reading →

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Secrecy and Stability: The Super Enablers at My Father’s Memorial

Posted on April 15, 2026 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

At my father’s memorial in 2019, the family dynamics were easy to see. Most people did not want to talk to me. They showed it through distance, short answers, or simply not engaging. My sister’s behavior was openly hostile. Her … Continue reading →

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The Rise of the Replacement Patriarch

Posted on January 15, 2025 by Shay Seaborne, CPTSD

Every dysfunctional family system seems to require a patriarchal figure to maintain its fragile balance. After my father’s death in late 2019, complex dynamics quickly created the opportunity for my youngest brother (YB) to step into that role, bypassing the … Continue reading →

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