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Resilience Isn’t Solo: The Neurobiology of Support
A recent visit with a new healthcare practitioner had a significantly negative impact. She was so out of sorts that she could not appropriately connect. That meant she could not take in what I said or understand what I needed. … Continue reading
Posted in Neurobiology
Tagged attunement, Medicine, overwhelm, practitioner, resilience, support
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Why One Safe Connection Affects Everything
In the past few months, I have enjoyed a noticeably improved quality of life. I don’t have to spend so much focus desperately trying to build connections. I have more energy for other things, like working in the garden and … Continue reading
Posted in PTSD, Uncategorized
Tagged connection, integrated relationships, integration, mutuality, recovery, relationships, support
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Victim Selection and the Structural Mechanics of Harm: Why Vulnerable People Are Chosen and Left Unprotected
Victimology examines patterns of harm and how systems respond to them. It shows that perpetrators rarely act randomly. They select targets who are vulnerable in ways that reduce risk to themselves and maximize the impact of the harm. Factors such … Continue reading
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Tagged accountability, Complaints, courts, harm, hospitals, justice, law, legal, Medicine, power dynamics, standard treatment, support, victim services, victimology
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The 20 Best Things You Can Say to a Person in Distress
Supportive language prioritizes validation, respect, and presence rather than minimizing, fixing, or forcing someone into a specific healing path. 1. “I believe you.” Validates their experience and counters disbelief. 2. “What happened to you was not your fault.” Removes blame … Continue reading
Big Ways to Support Your Nervous System With Tiny Actions
You can support your nervous system by building small, regular practices into your daily life to support your system’s ability to find steadiness over time. These practices don’t have to be complicated or take much time; consistency is what matters … Continue reading
Posted in Neurobiology
Tagged coregulation, Nervous System, Regulation, repair, safety, support
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Welfare Systems Trap the Nervous System and Hold People Down
A friend also lives with severe Complex PTSD rooted in extreme developmental trauma. They are profoundly disabled by it, not because they are incapable or unmotivated, but because their nervous system learned very early that survival required constant vigilance. The … Continue reading
Posted in IPNB of Hierarchy
Tagged hierarchy, social services, support, systems, welfare
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Doubly Cursed: The Cultural Victimization of Victims
I’ve experienced being dismissed, blamed, and pathologized for being harmed. Caregivers minimized my distress, family members judged me for expressing it, and acquaintances labeled me oversensitive when I tried to speak about what happened. The world treated me not as … Continue reading
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Tagged connection, support, victim mentality, victimhood, victimizing, victims
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The Most Dangerous Part of Being a Healthcare Practitioner
Working in healthcare can be meaningful and even life-affirming, but it also carries a kind of stress that is often invisible and unspoken. From an interpersonal neurobiology perspective, the danger isn’t just in burnout or long hours. It’s in what … Continue reading
Posted in Healthcare
Tagged care, connection, danger, healthcare, Medicine, practitioner, safety, suffering, support
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From Personal Trauma to Systemic Abuse, the Antidote is the Same
The same dynamics I experienced as a child–unpredictable abuse, bystanders who froze, and systems that protected the abuser–are now playing out on a much larger scale in the world. In medical systems, the same patterns repeat. People suffer abuse, neglect, … Continue reading
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Tagged authoritaianism, Community, creating, dancing, Domination, laughter, politics, resistance, singing, support, survival
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When Help Harms: How Welfare Humiliates the People It Supposedly Serves
I’ve had severe Complex PTSD nearly my whole life. In my young adult years, that meant a lot of financial instability. I tried my damndest to land and keep jobs, build a positive social environment, pursue education, keep my health … Continue reading
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Tagged abuse, abusive systems, humiliation, IPNB, shame, support, welfare
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