Safe connections are the foundation of our felt sense of safety and therefore, our well-being. Here are tips for increasing your safe connections with others.

Actively Listen
Fully concentrate on what the other person is saying without interrupting. Show that you are paying attention through nodding and verbal acknowledgments.

Express Empathy
Show understanding and share in the feelings of others. Phrases like “That sounds really tough” or “I can see why you feel that way” can help.

Be Genuine
Be honest and authentic in your interactions. People appreciate sincerity and can usually tell when someone is being disingenuous.

Use Open Body Language
Maintain eye contact, face the person, and keep your posture open and relaxed. Avoid crossing your arms or turning away.

Ask Questions
Show interest by asking open-ended questions that encourage the other person to share more about themselves.

Share Vulnerabilities
Open up about your own experiences and feelings. This can help build trust and deeper connections.

Validate Feelings
Acknowledge and affirm the other person’s emotions. Let them know their feelings are valid and understood.

Find Common Ground
Look for shared interests or experiences. This can help create a sense of connection and mutual understanding.

Be Respectful
Treat others with kindness and respect, even when you disagree. Respect their boundaries and perspectives.

Follow Up
Show that you care by following up on previous conversations. This demonstrates that you remember and value what they shared with you.