Author Archives: Shay Seaborne, CPTSD
The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Future Kids
If you’re thinking about having children someday, you might picture giving them love, stability, guidance, and maybe a few cherished traditions. But one gift shapes all the others: your own cohesive life story. A cohesive narrative means you can look … Continue reading
Posted in Family
Tagged children, cohesive narrative, family, IPNB, liberation, narrative, parents
Leave a comment
Rupture and Repair: How Breaks in Trust Can Be a Doorway to Something Better
Recently, I had a rupture repair session with one of my most trusted healthcare practitioners. About ten days before, we had a misattunement rupture when he dismissed what I said about my lived experience. I told him I was struggling, … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged attunement, connection, Doctor, IPNB, practitioners, relationship, rupture, safety
Leave a comment
Conservatism’s War on Human Health
The current form of American so-called conservatism, particularly as it has evolved under Trumpism and aligned with far-right movements, is so biologically adverse in that it promotes conditions that undermine human nervous system regulation, relational safety, and social well-being. This … Continue reading
Posted in Politics
Tagged conservatism, dependence, disability, health, ideology, interdependence, IPNB, LGBTQ, political, politics, poverty, reproductive rights, well-being
Leave a comment
Remembering the Kind of Man My Father Was
When I was nine years old, my mother took my siblings and me–and the contents of the marital bank account–and fled. She was trying to protect herself and her children from her husband, who was highly narcissistic and abusive to … Continue reading
Posted in Family
Tagged abuse, accountability, child abuse, child sex abuse, family, father, justice
Leave a comment
Unhoused by Design: Trauma, Culture, and Survival
The Trump administration’s attacks on unhoused people have drawn intense controversy, and for good reason. Instead of addressing the structural causes of homelessness, like skyrocketing rents, stagnant wages, inaccessible healthcare, and systems that fail to support trauma recovery, the focus … Continue reading
Posted in Politics
Tagged Community, culture, dignity, homelessness, housing, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, profit, safety, stability, Trauma, Trump, Trump Administration, unhoused
Leave a comment
The Answer is Always “Support the Nervous System”
Supporting the nervous system is at the core of healing and well-being. Our nervous system is the foundation of how we process and respond to stress, trauma, and life itself. When it’s dysregulated, as it often is in the face … Continue reading
Real Care is a Relationship: The Power of One Patient to Change the System
I’ve had to fight harder than most people can imagine just to be treated with dignity in medical spaces. I’ve been harmed, dismissed, ignored, and treated like a problem to manage instead of a human being to care for. But … Continue reading
Posted in Healthcare
Tagged authenticity, change, connection, Doctor, IPNB, learning, Medicine, pain, SGB
Leave a comment
A Dick Move Dressed As Generosity
I recently realized something important about my multi-millionaire brother, the one who stepped into the role of replacement patriarch after our father died. At first, he showed some empathy. He said he understood that women and girls are disadvantaged in … Continue reading
Posted in Family
Tagged brother, control, disconnection, Domination, family, finances, IPNB, money, patriarch, power
Leave a comment
From Trigger to Transformation: How Creative Acts Can Shift the Nervous System’s Response
This spring, a patch of red sprouts emerged in my garden. To someone else, they might have looked intriguing or even beautiful. But for me, their appearance instantly triggered an unwanted body memory from childhood trauma. At that moment, my … Continue reading
Posted in Mental Health
Tagged art, Behavioral Health, creativity, expressive arts, flashback, liberation, Mental Health, mental illness, painting, PTSD, Solomon's seal, trigger
Leave a comment
When Things Fall Apart, Recommit
Recently, I drove 90 minutes round-trip to see a specialist at the University of Pennsylvania Neuroscience Center at Radnor. That was a lot for me. My arms aren’t used to driving that long. It caused burning and muscle pain. The … Continue reading
Posted in Healthcare
Tagged CRPS, health, Medicine, Mental Health, Nerve Block, pain specialist, pRFA, PTSD, pulsed Radio Frequency Ablation, SGB, Stellate Ganglion Block, U Penn
Leave a comment