Author Archives: Shay Seaborne, CPTSD
Why Hierarchy Is the Problem
Hierarchy creates the separation that promotes contempt, which is the breeding ground of cruelty. From an Interpersonal Neurobiology perspective, hierarchy disrupts the natural processes of connection, safety, and co-regulation that support human well-being. In relationships or systems where hierarchy dominates, … Continue reading
Posted in IPNB of Hierarchy
Tagged Domination, harm, hierarchy, power, reciprocity, separation
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The Patriarch’s Ledger: A Tale of Power and Estrangement
Several years ago, my brother told me that he intended to leave his multi-million dollar estate to my sister, me, and our female children, because he understood that women are at a disadvantage in this culture. It struck me as … Continue reading
Posted in Family, IPNB of Hierarchy
Tagged alienation, brother, Domination, estate, family, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, money, no contact, patriarchy
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What if your overwhelm, exhaustion, and disconnection weren’t personal failures, but survival responses to chronic unsafety?
What if your overwhelm, exhaustion, and disconnection weren’t personal failures, but survival responses to chronic unsafety? We’re living in a world that constantly taxes our nervous systems with political chaos, financial strain, social disconnection, and a culture that rewards … Continue reading
Posted in Mental Health
Tagged Community, disconnection, distress, Imogen Ragone, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, overwhelm, safety, Shay Seaborne, workshop
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Hugs in the Treatment Plan: This Is What Care Feels Like
Six years ago, a gynecologist at ChristianaCare cut away healthy tissue without my consent. That egregious violation of informed consent fractured my sense of safety in a medical environment, my relationship with my body, and my ability to trust that … Continue reading
The Most Predatory Systems in America
In America today, several systems are notoriously predatory because they extract resources–money, labor, health, or dignity–from people without providing safety, care, or fairness in return. These systems often target the most vulnerable while shielding those with wealth and power. Here … Continue reading
Posted in Predators, Systems
Tagged abuse, Behavioral Health, big pharma, Black, child welfare, children, criminal, disabled, employment, healthcare, housing, immigration, indigenous, labor, legal, Mental Health, migrants, poor, predators, predatory, predatory systems, real estate, surveillance, tech, welfare, workforce
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Top 10 Early Warning Signs of Serial Abusers or Predators
Predators and other abusers rarely act at random. From an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) perspective, their behaviors follow relational patterns shaped by a need to control, dominate, and avoid accountability. These patterns are often visible if we know what to look … Continue reading
Posted in Predators
Tagged boundary violations, grooming, hospitals, image control, institutions, IPNB, patterns, predators
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Cutting the Roots of Human-on-Human Predation
The article, “Human on Human Predation” at the bonesofculture blog raises deep and disturbing truths that Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) can help illuminate. From an IPNB lens, predation is more than a behavioral problem or moral failure; it’s a reflection of a … Continue reading
Posted in Predators
Tagged accountabiity, culture, environments, human predators, justice, predators, thriving
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Who Do Predators Target and Why?
Predators are not randomly drawn to people; they are strategic. They operate by scanning for individuals whose nervous systems and relational patterns make them more likely to override their discomfort, downplay warning signs, and give others the benefit of the … Continue reading
Institutional Betrayal: Protection for Predators, Harm for the Rest of Us
I learned about institutional betrayal after I reported a predatory gynecologist to the state licensing board. Instead of holding the abuser accountable, the board and the attorney general’s office stood by him. This so negatively affected my nervous system that … Continue reading
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Tagged betrayal, connection, institutional betrayal, IPNB, power dynamics, predators, safety, Trauma
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Why They Picked You: How Predators Groom, Test, and Exploit Relational Intelligence
From an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) perspective, predators are not randomly drawn to people; they are strategic. They operate by scanning for individuals whose nervous systems and relational patterns make them more likely to override their discomfort, downplay warning signs, and … Continue reading