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When Healthcare Feels Dangerous: How Practitioners Shape Our Capacity to Heal

When I tell a practitioner that I’m not doing well, and they dismiss or minimize what I say–what I share of my lived experience–it makes everything worse. It increases my sense of unsafety. It pushes me even further onto Red … Continue reading

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Finding Practitioners Who Actually Listen: A Practical Guide

Healing doesn’t come from checking boxes, following a protocol, or hoping a practitioner will be “good enough.” It comes from being met by someone who can genuinely witness your experience, attune to what you’re saying, and recognize your strengths. That … Continue reading

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The Most Dangerous Part of Being a Healthcare Practitioner

Working in healthcare can be meaningful and even life-affirming, but it also carries a kind of stress that is often invisible and unspoken. From an interpersonal neurobiology perspective, the danger isn’t just in burnout or long hours. It’s in what … Continue reading

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Dear Doctor, Please Pause and Take a Breath Outside the Door

Dear Doctor, please pause and take a breath outside the door. It’s good for both of us. I know the system you work in demands too much, too fast, for too little. It rewards efficiency over empathy, billing codes over … Continue reading

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How Repeated Medical Abuse Conditions the Nervous System

Fabrizio Benedetti’s insights into conditioning in his book, “The Patient’s Brain: The neuroscience behind the doctor-patient relationship,” are highly relevant for understanding how repeated medical abuse can shape a person’s nervous system. Conditioning—where the nervous system learns through repeated experiences—plays … Continue reading

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ChristianaCare: Fortress of Wealth, Desert of Care

ChristianaCare is sitting on rising profits while the amount of free care it provides to the poor hasn’t budged in years. Spotlight Delaware reports that in 2023, the hospital system spent less than one percent of its budget on charity … Continue reading

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7 Years of Disbelief

For over seven years, I’ve been forced into the role of “my own best advocate.” This is because the people I turned to for care refused to understand what I need for recovery from severe Complex PTSD and quadrilateral Complex … Continue reading

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Connection Is the Cure: Meet My Nervous System’s Needs

My nervous system is desperate for the kind of connection that feels safe. Because all my life, I’ve been chronically and acutely deprived of that safety. Sometimes it’s been extreme, other times less so, but never enough. When I had … Continue reading

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F’ing Insane: Maltreatment by Health Data

I had my annual checkup with my primary care provider. She said all my numbers are good, because they collected the wrong numbers. No sleep data. No tracking my pain over time. No questions about PTSD or Complex Regional Pain … Continue reading

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Hugs in the Treatment Plan: This Is What Care Feels Like 

Six years ago, a gynecologist at ChristianaCare cut away healthy tissue without my consent. That egregious violation of informed consent fractured my sense of safety in a medical environment, my relationship with my body, and my ability to trust that … Continue reading

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