Tag Archives: disconnection
Dear Doctor, Please Pause and Take a Breath Outside the Door
Dear Doctor, please pause and take a breath outside the door. It’s good for both of us. I know the system you work in demands too much, too fast, for too little. It rewards efficiency over empathy, billing codes over … Continue reading
Posted in Healthcare
Tagged breathe, connection, disconnection, Doctor, dysregulated, healthcare, IPNB, Medicine, mindful breath, pause, presence, safety, stress reduction
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Connection Is the Cure: Meet My Nervous System’s Needs
My nervous system is desperate for the kind of connection that feels safe. Because all my life, I’ve been chronically and acutely deprived of that safety. Sometimes it’s been extreme, other times less so, but never enough. When I had … Continue reading
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Tagged attunement, connection, disconnection, health, healthcare, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, Medicine, Mental Health, Nervous System, safety
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A Dick Move Dressed As Generosity
I recently realized something important about my multi-millionaire brother, the one who stepped into the role of replacement patriarch after our father died. At first, he showed some empathy. He said he understood that women and girls are disadvantaged in … Continue reading
Posted in Family
Tagged brother, control, disconnection, Domination, family, finances, IPNB, money, patriarch, power
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What if your overwhelm, exhaustion, and disconnection weren’t personal failures, but survival responses to chronic unsafety?
What if your overwhelm, exhaustion, and disconnection weren’t personal failures, but survival responses to chronic unsafety? We’re living in a world that constantly taxes our nervous systems with political chaos, financial strain, social disconnection, and a culture that rewards … Continue reading
Posted in Mental Health
Tagged Community, disconnection, distress, Imogen Ragone, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, overwhelm, safety, Shay Seaborne, workshop
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Connection in Healthcare is Essential, But Medicine Sabotages It
Connection is vital in medicine, and is often ruptured by institutional demand for rushing and the culture of separation. That’s two strikes against doctors who want to connect, understand the importance, and need to feel connected themselves, and all doctors … Continue reading
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Tagged co-regulation, connection, disconnection, doctor-patient relationship, doctors, healthcare, IPNB, Medicine, rushing, safety
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Randy Shrugged: Generational Trauma Emotionally Eviscerated My Husband
When I was married to Randy*, I was in a constant state of confusion and loneliness. I’d ask what he felt, what he needed, what was going on between us. He’d shrug, tilt his head and say, “I don’t know.” … Continue reading
Posted in Family, Uncategorized
Tagged disconnection, divorce, intergenerational trauma, IPNB, Marriage, shrug, spouse
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