Tag Archives: presence
When “I’ll Pray for You” is a Symptom of Disconnection
I reached out to my brothers when I was in a protracted and deep struggle. I asked for safe connection, acknowledgment, and support. I needed them to see me and recognize how repeated abuse from the disease management industry had … Continue reading
Dear Doctor, Please Pause and Take a Breath Outside the Door
Dear Doctor, please pause and take a breath outside the door. It’s good for both of us. I know the system you work in demands too much, too fast, for too little. It rewards efficiency over empathy, billing codes over … Continue reading
Posted in Healthcare
Tagged breathe, connection, disconnection, Doctor, dysregulated, healthcare, IPNB, Medicine, mindful breath, pause, presence, safety, stress reduction
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Stop Skipping the Most Important Part: Being With Me In My Struggle Is Medicine for Us Both
Doctors often want to look at the bright side. They point to progress, milestones, changes in tone or function. They want to give hope. But in doing so, they often skip past the truth that I’m still struggling every day. … Continue reading
Posted in Mental Health
Tagged attunement, healing, health, holding space, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, presence
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Hugs in the Treatment Plan: This Is What Care Feels Like
Six years ago, a gynecologist at ChristianaCare cut away healthy tissue without my consent. That egregious violation of informed consent fractured my sense of safety in a medical environment, my relationship with my body, and my ability to trust that … Continue reading
What is Resonance and How Do We Achieve It?
Resonance in the context of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) refers to the harmonious connection between individuals, where their nervous systems and emotional states align and synchronize. This connection fosters mutual understanding, empathy, and emotional attunement, creating a sense of being deeply … Continue reading
Posted in co-regulation
Tagged coregulation, interpersonal neurobiology, IPNB, mindful, presence, resonance
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