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When Healthcare Feels Dangerous: How Practitioners Shape Our Capacity to Heal
When I tell a practitioner that I’m not doing well, and they dismiss or minimize what I say–what I share of my lived experience–it makes everything worse. It increases my sense of unsafety. It pushes me even further onto Red … Continue reading
Posted in Healthcare
Tagged attune, attunement, compassion, doctors, healthcare, healthcare practitioners, IPNB, relationship, witnessing
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Survivors in the Lurch: How Doctors Disregard Their Role in Resolving Medical Trauma
Recently, I heard the same line I’ve been hearing for years. A prominent pain specialist told me that doctors don’t have the time to help me recover from medical PTSD. The conversation always drops straight into the same rut: “Are … Continue reading
Posted in Accountability, Healthcare
Tagged attunement, Doctor, doctor-patient relationship, doctors, Empathy, IPNB, Medical PTSD, MPTSD, pain, pain specialist, relationship, therapy
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The Midwife Who Couldn’t Stop Talking
Having midwife care for the births of my two babies and for years after, I recently turned to midwives again. My trust in gynecology had been destroyed by non-consensual cutting and the institutional betrayal that protects the abusive doctor and … Continue reading
Posted in Healthcare
Tagged accountability, apology, blabbing, dysregulation, Interpersonal Neurobiolgy, IPNB, midwife, misattunement, relationship, repair, rupture
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Rupture and Repair: How Breaks in Trust Can Be a Doorway to Something Better
Recently, I had a rupture repair session with one of my most trusted healthcare practitioners. About ten days before, we had a misattunement rupture when he dismissed what I said about my lived experience. I told him I was struggling, … Continue reading
Posted in Relationships
Tagged attunement, connection, Doctor, IPNB, practitioners, relationship, rupture, safety
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Building Bridges, Not Walls: The Relational Antidote to Extremism
An article at PsyPost reveals a connection between genetic essentialism and “nationalism, xenophobia, racism, right-wing authoritarianism, social-dominance orientation, sexism and conservative ideology.” From an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) perspective, these traits can be seen as adaptive responses to unmet relational and … Continue reading
Posted in Extremism
Tagged belonging, Community, dehumanizing, extremism, powerlessness, relationship
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